My husband got an amazing opportunity to work in Wilmington for a few months. It was for a job he has been striving for his whole career. The plan was that he would work out in Wilmington for two months and I would come out to visit every few weeks so I could continue to work and take care of our pups. Since my job allows me to work from home I was able to work from Wilmington to extend my visits with him. After my first visit my husband was asked to stay on until the end of the year and possibly to the early part of the following year. That meant he would be away from home about 4-5 months. We talked a lot about it and decided that the bet thing was for us to be together. We just worked through a really rough few years and we both felt we worked so hard to be where we were in our relationship we didn't want to start from stretch again. So after many prayers and tears I went to my boss to ask if I could work from Wilmington so I could be with my family and continue to help them on this major project that was coming close to implementation. I told her if it was not possible I would need to give my notice because my family is my #1 priority. She was shocked at first but said she would see what she could do to.
After she researched with our company I was told I would not be able to remain an employee but I would be able to move to a contractor. I was grateful for this because ultimately it met everyone's needs - I would be able to be with my family and the company would still have me assisting them on the project. So I sent my request in writing to move from an employee to contractor status. The wheels were in motion. We decided that I was going to drive from CA to Wilmington so I would have a car to explore with and I would take the pups as well. My mom offered to come with me and we were so excited for our drive across America adventure!
Then a day and a half before I was leaving I called HR to ask a few more questions about insurance, etc. and she told me "Oh...so that option of you going to a contractor status...yeah, that's not gonna work...haha...sorry! My bad!" I took a deep breath and stopped myself from saying "are you kidding me? My bad? And you are laughing?!" She said my only options were to go on a leave for 30 days to go visit my husband, come back and work out a vacation schedule with my boss so I can go visit my husband periodically. It was a punch to the stomach and I was fuming. I gave them 7 1/2 weeks notice and I was so upset that they would spring this on me at the last minute. I would have no problem going to visit back and forth if it wasn't that our project schedule was insane and I was burning the candle at both ends...then add the energy it takes to travel from one side of the country and back. I already did it a few times and I was about to drop from exhaustion. I was going non-stop and had no time to breathe. I know there are other women that have to be away from their husbands for a longer period of time...way longer...and you maybe be thinking - buck up sister! Put on your big girl panties! Which I totally get and believe me if you knew what I have been through in the past 5 years you would understand I have had my big girl panties on for quite awhile and handle my shit! Thoroughly.
The other side of it was my husband was telling me every night - I need you here - you are my anchor - I sleep better with you here - I need my family - Don't worry about work, I will take care of us. How can you say no to that? It took everything in me not to drop everything and go out there immediately. Now if you know me you already know this. I am definitely very independent. My job, my car, my money - I can take care of myself. I never wanted to feel someone had to take care of me and could hold it over my head. I know...there are some definite therapy sessions around that subject. I'll let you know if I figure that one out. Anyways, that is why I tried hard to stay working. But at the end of the day, I love my husband and if he says he needs me...I'm going.
I told my boss that I was taking a 30 day leave and leaving to be with my husband. She wasn't too happy which I understand because there was so much work to do. I told her I put plans in order to keep working but it didn't work out - I tried. She asked if I could wait to figure out what else could be done but I said plans were already made - my mom already had her return ticket back to California. I gave her a list of all the things I do and needed to be done and left.
On Wednesday, August 28th at 7am my mom and I got into our Element with my lil pups Lucy and Brando to drive across America to see my dude.
I figured a drive across America with my mom will give me time to think about what I was going to do about my job.
More to come!
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